As important as how to detect child abuse is the prevention of abuse and maltreatment in childhood. Among the keys to encouraging children to have optimal relationships with others is to instill appropriate models of reference and a education from the earliest childhood in the family, social and school environment.
It is essential to convey that communication and dialogue is the way to resolve discrepancies and not aggressiveness or insult. Being kind, tolerant, and respectful of others should not be the exception, but the rule.
1- It is important to begin to promote ethical and moral values in children, being able to establish adequate rules of coexistence.
2- We have to be aware when talking about and treating children who are especially vulnerable, fragile people and are sometimes considered inanimate figures that belong to one of the parents.
3- The human being has to learn and be able to control anger and aggressiveness adaptively and appropriately. Control of emotions is essential.
4- We must not forget the importance of developing in children the capacity for empathy to be able to put themselves in the place of the other and understand that our behavior or attitude can cause suffering in the other.
5- Adults we are a role model for minors. An environment where psychic or physical violence prevails will help our children learn these models of behavior and can repeat them.
6- We have to facilitate the children:
- Physical, affective, emotional, educational and social well-being
- Watch over your rights and interests
- Ability to listen, provide them the opportunity to express themselves and feel understood and emotionally clothed
- Stay attentive to their physical and emotional needs and demands.
7- Our society, in general and each of us, in particular, must protect and provide our children with a safe environment, affective, adaptive and structured. Thus, we will guarantee an adequate psycho-evolutionary development of the child and a happy childhood.
Many parents are not aware of the harm they are causing their children when they use some wrong and wrong attitudes with their children. Here are some very common examples of psychological violence from parents towards children:
1. When children are humiliated
When someone humiliates a child in front of others (or in private), it deeply damages their self-esteem in such a way that the child truly feels worthless. Through criticism, insults, false accusations, derogatory comments, children suffer violence many times without perceiving or identifying, but what they do is destroy the self-esteem of the little ones. What parents should do:
- Do not accuse children without proof
- Don't make disparaging comments about him
- Do not compare him with others
- Don't constantly criticize him for something he doesn't do well
2. When they are brainwashed
Brainwashing is not exclusive to political groups. It can be given to children in their own home. It occurs in cases in which the child's own parents (or it may be another adult) question the child's psychological health. It is the adults who think that the child has a mental or behavioral problem, even if it is not true, and they treat him as such.
What they achieve in this case is to generate confusion and anxiety in the child. Parents, for example, who think their child is hyperactive when he is not, and treat him as such, when their child is just nervous. They get him to end up believing that he has that problem.
3. When they isolate children
Parents reach the most extreme phase of overprotection when they assume absolute control of the child, that is, they choose what their child can and cannot do at all times. When you can see your friends and when you cannot see them, when you can see your relatives or not. In this way, the child depends exclusively on his parents. With this, parents avoid the autonomy and freedom of the child, creating for him a world parallel to that of reality.
These are definitely extreme cases of psychological violence, but there are many others. The screams, as well as a simple look, some words, gestures, impulses ... can leave a deep wound in children.
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