Children learn to manage emotions such as anger or frustration as they get older. We must offer them the tools so that they learn to understand, name and channel how they feel, since otherwise it is normal that they end up yelling or hitting because they do not know how to express their anger in another way. The short stories they can be a good resource for emotional education. Marisa Alonso has written 'It doesn't stick', a story that makes children think so that they do not hit their siblings.
- Mum ...!Ivan hit me...! - Rebeca shouted entering the dining room.
- She started! - Shouted his brother two years younger, who came behind crying.
Every day the same story and his parents were very tired with this situation.
- You are going to force us to separate! - they told the children.
When the weekend came around, just as they were walking out the door to go see grandparents, it happened again:
- You're stupid, don't pull my pigtails! - Rebecca yelled.
- She kicked me first! - Ivan protested looking at his mother; and they got into a big fight again.
- ¡It does not stick! You are going to hurt each other! - Said his father forcefully separating the children.
- Your behavior is unacceptable! - This time his mother said very upset.
- What was it this time? - asked them.
- Ivan has taken my top from me! - hiccupped the girl.
- He never lets me and mine broke! - Ivan said in his defense.
- What can you think of for your sister to give you the top? - said his father.
- You can reach an agreement. You leave the top to Iván and your brother lets you play with the rocket that you like so much - he continued.
- ¡Sticking is not the solution! Did we hit you? - continued his father.
When they returned home, their parents told them to each go into their room so they could reconsider. At dinner time there were no kicks or hair pulling and their parents congratulated them. Before going to bed they reminded them how they expected their behavior to be from that day on. Also, the two children promised not to hit each other anymore and they asked for forgiveness.
The next day, shortly after arriving from school, when the two of them went to sit on the same side of the couch to watch their favorite TV show, Rebeca pushed Iván away. Suddenly, the girl remembered her promise and left room for her brother little. His mother was so happy that she ordered a pizza for dinner.
On Saturday morning, when Rebeca took out the video game console, she offered Iván to play one game each, and that very conflictive moment on other days, it became a fun time for the brothers. That weekend the whole family happily enjoyed an afternoon at the movies.
Little by little, although from time to time they fought, they learned to control themselves and to come to terms with each other, and that made their parents very happy. They had finally understood that when they disagreed, there were different ways to find solutions and, hitting was not one of them!
In addition to inviting children to reflect on the behavior of the protagonists of this story, in which they can be seen highly reflected, this text can be very useful for work on some skills and concepts that children must develop. For this, below we propose some activities.
- The game of truth
First of all, we propose a reading comprehension exercise that will allow you to know if your child has paid attention to reading. Here are some phrases that speak about this short story. Some of them are true, but others do not fit the story. We invite children to discover which ones are true.
- Ivan and Rebeca never quarreled, ever.
- Their parents despaired of the relationship their children had with each other.
- The mother and father told them that when they fought, they had to hit each other to end the fight.
- In the end they managed to realize that they should not stick.
- What would you have done...?
With the following activity we want the children to reflect so that they understand that sticking is not the solution to the problems they may encounter. To do this, we suggest that you chat with your child following the following questions. It is a game that also helps the little ones work on empathy.
- Why do you think Iván and Rebeca fight so much?
- Do you fight with your brothers? Why?
- Is it okay to stick? Why?
- What would you have done if you were the parents of these children?
- What does it mean to 'come to terms' to avoid fighting?
- Search, search ... and you will find the words!
For the children to review what they have learned in language class, challenge them to find examples of the following words in the text:
- A verb in the past. In what time, mode, person and number is it?
- A noun. What would it be in masculine? And in feminine? And in the plural?
- A determinant. Do you know what type it is?
- An adjective. Can you put the plural?
In which house are there no fights between brothers? That these are common does not mean that we should not help children to stop them.
- We must understand that each of our children (even if they were born to the same parents, in the same environment and with the same type of education) They are different and therefore each of them needs a number of different things. We should never compare them!
- Educate both children on emotions by pointing out when they feel angry and how they should handle this emotion.
- We have to teach children that we can get angry and that we can have different points of view. However, we can speak with them from the peace of mind, from active communication ... And, what is very important,from empathy!
- Do not solve the problems that arise between your children or take part in them by positioning yourself in favor of one (and against the other). Be careful with the language you use, because you could inadvertently express that you are judging their behavior. Try to promote dialogue and encounter between them so that they learn to solve their conflicts themselves.
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