Tantrums, which began at about one year of age when our son began his long journey toward autonomy (and discovered that he could try to assert his wishes and tastes beyond his needs), are still something we deal with and we will face for several more years. However, when we talk about the tantrums of 3-year-olds, the characteristics and reasons that trigger your anger are not necessarily the same.
Tantrums evolve as they do. So now that you have reached your wonderful three years, come new achievements, challenges and challenges in each and every one of your areas of development.
A 3-year-old has achieved the following skills:
- He can eat alone.
- Has achieved toilet training day and night.
- He brushes his teeth imitating the adult.
- Go up the stairs alternating feet. Sing and dance while listening to music.
- Knows how to wait his turn and can follow the rules of the game by imitating other children.
- Greet people you know without being reminded. He begins to ask for things please and to give thanks without being reminded. Ask for help when you have a problem.
- Pay attention for at least 5 minutes while reading a story.
- You can follow two orders that are not related.
- Says their full name, can count from 1 to 20, follows sequences or patterns with tiles or blocks.
- Relates immediate experiences. It can also count two events in the order in which they occurred and express future actions.
- Tells how common objects are used.
- You can change the order of the words to ask questions: Can I? He is also able to answer simple questions.
- Use the imperative when asking for something.
- The concepts of small - large, near - far, light - heavy, wet - dry, up - down, etc. are clear.
As we see, three-year-olds have many new skills and especially with many more communication skills, which can be an element in our favor because they can be more clear when expressing why you are angry and a greater understanding of why we cannot please them at any given time.
Now that we know some of milestones children achieve at age three, we are going to contemplate some of the most frequent causes for which children can have a tantrum.
- He wants to have something that we cannot give him or that we have to take away from him.
- You want to do something that is not acceptable or dangerous.
- You don't want to give up a fun activity.
- You are unable to get the care you want.
- He doesn't want to share.
What do you usually do when your kids throw a tantrum? Here are some tips for handling tantrums for three-year-olds.
1. Stand firm
We must be firm and consistent with unacceptable behaviors (throwing, biting, hitting), in ALL circumstances; We cannot let them do any dangerous or rude behavior just because we are in a good mood or because we are busy getting their attention.
Anticipating certain situations that we know can put our child in tantrum mode can help decrease the number of events. For example, if he is tired, let's not take him shopping because the chances of an angry situation arising are high.
3. Stay calm
Keep calm. If our child is in the middle of a tantrum and we begin to raise our voices and appear desperate for him to stop, we will only put more stress on the situation. The ideal is to keep calm, speak in a low voice, get close to his face and ask him to calm down because only then can we listen to him and wait, showing all our patience, for him to do so.
4. Let it get frustrated
Many parents wonder how to develop tolerance for frustration in their children. The answer is just that; many times children have to understand that they cannot always have what they want no matter how much they cry or scream.
5. Give you alternatives
For example, if you are frustrated because you cannot eat a piece of candy, we can tell you that you can choose between two or three options for dessert after eating. Usually at this age they are excited to be able to choose certain things for themselves and it can decrease the intensity of the tantrum.
6. Move the focus of attention
A good option is to distract them with some other object or situation such as: 'stop, stop, shhh ... what is that seen through the window?', They can make our child change his attention from place and it is easier to calm him down.
Not everything is terrible with tantrums. As we see, represent an opportunity for children to develop tolerance skills, flexibility and adaptation and for us as parents, they give us the opportunity to continue pointing the way and the limits of what is acceptable and what is not.
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