What if one day you decided to stop? If you said goodbye to rush and stress and you will start to enjoy life more and the small details that it offers us and that many times we do not value. All this would greatly strengthen people and their environment and, above all, would have a lot of benefits for family life and for our children. Discover the power of the hygge philosophy to make children feel loved and respected.
The hygge philosophy, a Danish term that translated into Spanish means 'comfort', refers to a current of wellness or well-being that seeks to live in a relaxed way, enjoying things or experiences that are simple but very valuable for spiritual well-being, such as sharing time with friends, enjoy a good book in a pleasant environment (for example, a sofa with a blanket and a hot tea) or simply sit and contemplate the views and enjoy them living the present, the now, the one that passes every day by ahead of us like lightning, hidden between tomorrow and things to do.
It is certain, as they affirm from different tribunes, that this situation of sanitary crisis is going to imply changes at many levels of our lives. During confinement, he will force us to try teleworking, which arouses so many misgivings; but it is also going to force us to reconcile, without help, without excuses, being with your children in the moments that require it 100%, without distractions and being fully aware of now.
Parents are not friends with our children. Our role is not that; However, and even if they do not perceive it, we do a much more important job, which is to give them shelter and emotional security in their day to day life. Offer them a stable environment to which they always want to return; that's precisely hygge: make them feel loved and respected with us so that when they grow up they become happy adults.
Therefore, the lack of social activities can be a unique occasion to teach them to play cards, for example, or to another board game that allows them to enjoy the moment, calmly, without haste. Light some candles, prepare a hot chocolate and enjoy a few hours in which the protagonists are you.
Until now we were used to running through life. There were always things to do, a thousand messages to read and lots of plans to take advantage of. We have not allowed our children to get bored, to learn to be in a place without doing anything by letting their imagination run wild, and many psychological currents warned us that this is not good.
But the bad thing is that in a way we have dragged them to this lifestyle, letting ourselves be carried away by our interests. How can we reverse this trend? Let's take advantage of these days to slow down and learn (and teach them) to live differently.
1. Put your phone aside
Hyperconnection, so necessary these days, does not allow us to BE in capital letters with our children. Let's take advantage of these times of information saturation to do ourselves a double favor: take advantage of the benefits that technological disconnection is going to have on us and put all our focus on children. Talk to them, listen to them, learn to see what worries them and advise them. Dialogue. You will be giving him emotional shelter and a unique gift.
2. Play as a family
Dust off board games and spend time playing them. How about teaching him to play Briscola or Tute? They are simple and easy games that will give you unique moments around a table. Playing cards can teach them to face frustration (sometimes you win and sometimes you lose) and to collaborate with others for the common good, as in Bridge.
3. Enjoy nature
You don't have to be an expert hiker or go camping every weekend to learn to enjoy nature. Nature makes its way everywhere: we are surrounded by parks with trees and small urban fauna that we can teach them to observe. If you want to go one step further, you can do hiking routes adapted to their age and show them that the simple things, those offered by nature, are the most beautiful (acorns, mushrooms, stones, leaves ... beauty is anywhere, but there are than learn to observe it). And if you can't leave the house, grow your own garden: plant legumes, seeds like chia (you can add the sprouts to the salad) or try to grow the seeds of the peppers, and observe how they grow day by day ... that way they will develop patience and they will learn that the immediate (what they are so used to) is not always the best.
4. Create moments and corners of tranquility
Take advantage of the lack of rush to enjoy a good book together, why not prepare an armchair or a special space in a room so that you can read in a relaxed way and learn as a family to enjoy calm time, to enjoy now? It is basically what we did as children ... And it is that we, the children of the 70s and 80s live a hygge childhood without knowing it ... right?
5. Cook as a family
The way we eat is an important point of hygge, since it is closely related to our well-being. Cook calmly, with quality ingredients, slowly, without haste and enjoying each step: watching the bread dough rise, or how the milk ferments to transform into yogurt ... in short, enjoy cooking to learn to eat better now enjoy a moment that we usually do running.
Enjoy the moment, make it slow down enjoying the now. Take care of your environment, it is not necessary to do a great reform (in the details is the magic), breathe and live calmly and remember that the important ones are you.
Text inspired by the book Awakening to life, by Carlos Giménez Borrajo.
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